No Losses Only Lessons

I forgot that I had a blog where I was going to talk about my foolishness as it relates to males. I still wanted to write something with this title. I considered writing about work and school. I don’t know if that’s what will follow below because I made this a placeholder, draft. I would say stay tuned but you likely are. I also almost said we would see together. But that isn’t true since I’m gone see when I write it and you will after it is on wax. Bahahahaha.

I think I’m gonna keep this cute and simple. Like a palate cleanser. Cuz God has been giving me the business with what I’ve been writing and y’all have been reading.

Don’t despise what brought you here. It made you you. And it is making who you will be.

One of my favorite Scriptures (search for it so you KNOW I’m not making it up) says all things work together for good.

Salt is kinda gross alone.

Flour is kinda gross alone.

Vanilla is kinda gross alone.

Flour is kinda gross alone.

Eggs are kinda gross alone.

Baking powder is kinda gross alone.

Oil is kinda gross alone.

Sugar is kinda gross alone.

Milk and/or water (to others lol) is kinda gross alone.

But when you, good God, take all of these things and put them together. With the precise measurements. Not the same amount of all of the ingredients. But carefully crafted amounts, according to the recipe of one who has tried it, possibly failed, but taken, wheeeeeeeeeeew, time to perfect something that they find pleasing, and then presented it.

Those tears hurt.

That betrayal hurt.

That abandonment hurt.

God’s no hurt.

Sinning when you knew better hurt.

Losing that job hurt.

Being overlooked hurt.

Walking away hurt.

Isolation hurt.

God what are you dooooooooing to me right now?! This revelation is bananas to me. It is bleeeeeeessing meeeeeee.

I wrote out nine things. If you read 25 to 26, you know I looked up what numbers mean. I THOUGHT, I included what nine meant because I looked it up because that’s how old I was when I received salvation. CLEARLY I got lost in the sauce. Or something. According to, the number nine means divine completeness or finality.

Once you mix the ingredients, you gotta put it in the oven. You gotta add heat. Those ingredients come to a point of finality. Of completeness. After the heat of that oven cooks it for juuuuuuuuust the right amount of time, it is delicious and ready to be consumed.

After we have, hallelujah! Chiiii. That is a first in the middle of the blog. But this thang is so goooooooood to me. I felt it!

After we have suffered for a while…. When we are tried in the fire…. I know what they say. You go find out so you can figure out why I couldn’t get the thought out at first.

While we will not be truly, divinely complete until we no longer inhabit this earth in these bags of dirt and bones, there comes a point where we are divinely complete and final enough to step into the purpose He has called us to. I just remembered this was supposed to be short and cute. Apologies. Take it to God in prayer and leave it there. Lol.

Anywho. There comes a point where we are ready enough to do what He birthed us to do. Everything will have worked together. Everything will have been necessary. No drop will have been wasted. Like I said somewhere, the tests will have become a testimony that is a testament to who God has been. And your testimony is being prepared so someone can eat and learn how, my God, to make a testimony of their own.

Get up. Get Up. Get UP. GET UP! There is no condemnation to those in Jesus. Go find it. I’ll help this time. It is in Romans. We sin. We fall. We make mistakes. THAT IS NOT WHO WE ARE.

He didn’t die to forgive you once. He didn’t die to just forgive one sin. He died for it ALL. One of my Sunday School teachers told us that when God sees us, He sees us through the blood veil of Jesus. He KNEW what you would do and still chose the cross.

When He sees you He sees someone He loves. You ain’t gone get away with no consequences. I mean, the shame may be the only consequence He has for you since you are already punishing yourself. BUUUUUUUT. He didn’t die for you to stay there. He doesn’t see you there. You see yourself there and are holding yourself captive and prisoner because you expected more. Chiiiii. Get over it.

Do like David did after the son of his sin died and he fasted so God would change His mind. Wash yourself (in whatever way you need to which is likely not literally washing. Listen to a sermon read a Scripture) and eat (again, same instructions). Your legacy awaits.

He had another son with his wife (I’m pretty sure some of this is about to be in another blog that was a draft first but oh well. Apologies but not.) who became king. This son did things God wouldn’t allow him to do. This son became a wise man. This son was Solomon who wrote Proverbs.

The same God that was with them is the same God available to you TOOOOOODAAAAAAAAY!

Go be great. Chiiiii. YOU and someone else is counting on it.


Follow Instructions

One of the ppl I live with has been wanting bread pudding.

They used to be able to get it from a store near the house. It’s never there.

I went to another location. I decided I would make it if I couldn’t find it.

Found out it is no longer sold pre-made.

I found a recipe for it. My phone was dying so I looked at all the ingredients. I bought what wasn’t at the house and left.

I decided to watch a Facebook live about love. Shout out to my fellow blogger and her husband.

Honestly, I didn’t even read the recipe in full. Just the ingredients and like one instruction about the bread. And the recipe was behind a pay wall after so many observations.

I thought I could access it after registering. Nope. I had to subscribe. I discovered this after I had cut the bread poured the milk on it, and decided to see if I was following instructions.

Surprise surprise. I was NOT. I should have made a custard with the milk.

Let me pause and say I am not a baker. I make a few desserts that require minimal effort. Cooking though? Baaaaaybeeeee. Ima add a pic. I cooks.

Okay. Back on track. I proceeded to melt the butter and add the sugar and vanilla to it. I beat the eggs.

But, I had a realization. I know from watching cooking shows that ya girl is finna make caramel or something similar.

I tried to squeeze the milk out of the bread. Fail. I opened the refrigerator to see if there was milk. There usually isn’t. But heaven smiled on this mess. Right on the door was a baby container.

I didn’t even measure it. I just dumped it. It was cold so it cooled the butter and sugar. I realize that now. I did notice that the butter stopped melting.

But, there was already the appropriate amount of milk on the bread. I didn’t fully follow instructions for adding the stove mixture to the eggs.

They said it had to cool. But chiiiiii. I knew it wasn’t hot. So, I mixed it then poured it on the bread then put it in the oven.

Oh. I also added more bread. And now that I think about it, it wasn’t as sweet as it could have been because I didn’t add more sugar. Gah.

I just KNEW it was gonna be nasty. However, the two ppl who ate it liked it. One said I just needed to add the pre-made cinnamon sugar to it. I said it wasn’t sweet enough and reminded me of French toast. I def used brioche and, again, not enough sugar.

The ppl in the comments of the recipe also said it should soak in the mixture. I saw that before I baked it. But it was already a mess and getting late. Next time. I’m gonna try again. Lol.

That made me think of us and how we relate to God sometimes. When we don’t follow instructions or kinda follow them we end up with a mess. I could list more of my mistakes but, I’m gonna go to the Good Book.

Abraham was told he would have a baby with Sarah. She didn’t believe or was impatient. She sent her maid Hagar to have the baby, Ishmael. She treated Hagar harshly. She ended up with a baby, Isaac, and then sent Ishmael and Hagar away. As a result, Ishmael’s descendents are at odds with Isaac’s to this day. (Flit around Genesis. I’m usually good about citing. But I’m being lazy. Apologies.)

Moses was told to speak to the rock to get water. He hit it in frustration. As a result, God told him he would never see the Promised Land. After all that he had done. (Exodus my friend.)

Samson was told not to cut his hair or he’d lose his strength. He got involved with a woman who wasn’t an Israelite and spilled the secret. It resulted in him losing his hair, strength, eyes, and ultimately his life. (Judges will tell it all.)

The prophet Samuel gave King Saul instructions from God (Samuel trained as a priest but became a prophet. Priests performed the burnt sacrifices.) to destroy everyone and everything-including the animals. Saul saved the animals so that they could be offered as a sacrifice to God. Samuel was like bro, uh uh. You messed up and God is giving the kingdom to another. (1 or 2 Kings. One of em. You’re already on a device that will let you search or google.)

Saul’s successor David was a man of war after God’s heart. As a teen he killed five giants with five stones and a slingshot when nobody else could kill them.

Israel is at war later after David ascends the throne. Normally, kings were at war with the ppl while they fight. For some reason, David was at the palace on the roof. He saw a beautiful woman and decided he had to have her.

He sleeps with her, gets her pregnant, then realizes that she’s the wife of one of his best warriors. He calls the man home. He tries to get him to sleep with his wife. He refuses bc he is an honorable man and won’t be intimate while they are at war.

Since that didn’t work, David sends word and had the man assigned to a position that would surely get him killed. It did.

A new prophet, Nathan, goes to David and tells him he knows what he did and as a result the baby would die. David fasts and puts on sackcloth and ashes until he finds out the baby has died. Odd to others for sure.

Oh. David married the woman, Bathsheeba, after her husband, Uriah, died. They had another son Solomon.

At this point, the house of God is in tents, the tabernacle, and mobile. It had been since back in the day after Moses freed the people from Egypt when they wandered in the wilderness.

David decides and tells God that he wants to build a stationary house of worship, a temple. God is like cool, cool, cool. But um yeah. Not you buddy. You have too much blood on your hands. Solomon will though.

He lost a child and couldn’t build the temple. After ALL he had been through with God (there’s so much in Psalms and Kings. These particular instances described are in 1 or 2 Kings. Wherever you find Saul, just keep going. David comes after him.).

I’m certain there are more stories and ppl. I have surely gone over the customary length I imagine these to be in my head.

The point is simple and stated in the title: follow instructions. Cuz if we don’t, untold and unimaginable consequences will follow.

Go be great. Someone’s counting on it. 😊

Proverbs 25 (The Message MSG)

Further Wise Sayings of Solomon

The Right Word at the Right Time

1 There are also these proverbs of Solomon,
    collected by scribes of Hezekiah, king of Judah.

God delights in concealing things;
    scientists delight in discovering things.

Like the horizons for breadth and the ocean for depth,
    the understanding of a good leader is broad and deep.

4-5 Remove impurities from the silver
    and the silversmith can craft a fine chalice;
Remove the wicked from leadership
    and authority will be credible and God-honoring.

6-7 Don’t work yourself into the spotlight;
    don’t push your way into the place of prominence.
It’s better to be promoted to a place of honor
    than face humiliation by being demoted.

Don’t jump to conclusions—there may be
    a perfectly good explanation for what you just saw.

9-10 In the heat of an argument,
    don’t betray confidences;
Word is sure to get around,
    and no one will trust you.

11-12 The right word at the right time
    is like a custom-made piece of jewelry,
And a wise friend’s timely reprimand
    is like a gold ring slipped on your finger.

13 Reliable friends who do what they say
    are like cool drinks in sweltering heat—refreshing!

14 Like billowing clouds that bring no rain
    is the person who talks big but never produces.

This is for me.

15 Patient persistence pierces through indifference;
    gentle speech breaks down rigid defenses.

And this too. Both timely for different reasons.

A Person Without Self-Control

16-17 When you’re given a box of candy, don’t gulp it all down;
    eat too much chocolate and you’ll make yourself sick;
And when you find a friend, don’t outwear your welcome;
    show up at all hours and he’ll soon get fed up.

18 Anyone who tells lies against the neighbors
    in court or on the street is a loose cannon.

19 Trusting a double-crosser when you’re in trouble
    is like biting down on an abscessed tooth.

20 Singing light songs to the heavyhearted
    is like pouring salt in their wounds.

Eek. Ouch.

21-22 If you see your enemy hungry, go buy him lunch;
    if he’s thirsty, bring him a drink.
Your generosity will surprise him with goodness,
    and God will look after you.

23 A north wind brings stormy weather,
    and a gossipy tongue stormy looks.

24 Better to live alone in a tumbledown shack
    than share a mansion with a nagging spouse.

25 Like a cool drink of water when you’re worn out and weary
    is a letter from a long-lost friend.

26 A good person who gives in to a bad person
    is a muddied spring, a polluted well.

27 It’s not smart to stuff yourself with sweets,
    nor is glory piled on glory good for you.

28 A person without self-control
    is like a house with its doors and windows knocked out.

Proverbs 2

I think I changed my mind about the translations. I think I’m just gonna stick with The Message (MSG) translation. Also, this is paraphrased. You should go read it for yourself. 😉

1-5: Take in the words with our heart and guard them with our lives. Listen to wisdom and set our heart to a life of understanding. If we prioritize insight, don’t take no for an answer, we will receive the fear of God and have the knowledge of God.

6-8: We will have the fear and knowledge of God because He gives wisdom for free, God speaks plainly in knowledge and understanding, he gives common sense if we live well, he is A PERSONAL BODYGAURD (that hit hard if you can’t tell. Sheesh!) if we are candid and sincere. God watches those who live honestly and pays special attention to those who are loyally committed.

9-15: We can pick out what is true and fair. Wisdom will be our close friend. Knowledge will be our pleasant companion. Good sense will look ahead for danger. Insight will keep an eye out for us. All of them will keep us from making wrong turns or following bad directions given by lost people. These people are losers who make a game of evil, throwing parties to celebrate perversity, traveling paths that go nowhere, wandering in a maze of detours and dead ends.

16-19: Wise friends will rescue us from the temptress, the smooth talking seductress, who is faithless to her husband, who never thought about the promises made to God, she is doomed, walking closer to hell. People that join her do not come back or get on the path to real living.

20-22: Join the company of good men and women, keeping your feet on the tried and true paths. Men who walk straight settle the land. Women with integrity last here. The corrupt lose their lives. The dishonest are gone for good.

I kinda wanted to have something to say. However, I’s tired boss. Maybe I’ll have nice flowery words at some point. The great thing about it though, is that the Word of God really needs nothing else. It’s good all by itself.

Proverbs 1

When I was growing up at my grandfather’s church, we would read a chapter of Proverbs every day during the month of January. I haven’t done it in ages. I decided that I would this year. I may read different translations throughout the month. I opened the King James version and was like naaaaah, even though that’s what I normally read. Proverbs is a lot so I wanna dig in more via a more simple translation.

The Message *Summary of The Message (MSG) version*

1-6: The wise sayings of King Solomon were written to help us live and understand life, to learn what is right, just and fair. These proverbs exist to teach the inexperienced and give the young an understanding of reality. Solomon didn’t leave the seasoned people out-there are things for them to learn.

7: The absolute truth is written here-start with God because the first step in learning is bowing down to God.

8-19: We should pay attention to what we were told by our father and what we learned from our mother, wearing the lessons like flowers in our hair or rings on our fingers. We should not be tempted by bad companions.

20-21: Wisdom appears publicly and makes her presence known.

22-24: Wisdom asks how long we will be ignorant and refuse to learn. Wisdom tells us she can revise our lives, she is ready to pour her spirit on us, ready to tell us all she knows. We turn a deaf ear and ignore her though she has reached out.

25-28: Because we laugh at her counsel, and make a joke of her advice, she cannot take us seriously. Wisdom will make a joke of our troubles. Wisdom asks what happens if we end up in trouble, we will need her, we will call her, but we should not expect an answer. Despite how hard we look, we won’t find her.

29-33: Because we hated knowledge and did not have anything to do with the fear of God, wouldn’t take her advice, and brushed aside her offers to train us, we have to lie in the bed we made. Carelessness kills, complacency is murder. Pay attention to wisdom then relax. We can take it easy because we are in good hands.